Why I Unfollowed “Her”

by Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Why i unfollowed herI try not to be petty when it comes to social media, but who am I kidding, we all have gotten our “social media feelings” hurt a time or two. However, at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter who’s “following” us back or not, because I’ve come to the conclusion that real fellowship occurs offline. Even still, I HAD to unfollow her.

A few weeks ago I created a SnapChat account & I must admit, I’m secretly loving it. I love how the “pressure” of getting likes is non-existent in the world of SnapChat. I also love watching people chronicle their day. In the beginning, I followed a lot of makeup artists. Some of you guys may already know this, but I used to be a makeup artist for M.A.C., so I enjoy discovering new lip colors, eye palettes, etc.

Her makeup was ALWAYS flawless. Hands down, she’s currently killing the makeup game right now. I can’t fail to mention how beautiful she is. She has a undeniable, global beauty, and her body is absolutely perfect. Not too big and not too small. But for some reason, I wasn’t impressed. To be honest, I was slightly concerned and a bit bothered. After I chose to unfollow her, I realized I was changing.

Serious question: ¬†How long are we expected to watch someone vogue on camera while poking out their lips? Are Kylie Jenner’s snaps of herself poking out her “lips” & “behind” actually worth 15 seconds of our day? Question: Who are these women trying to impress? Better question: If you’re following them, are you, well…impressed?

I left M.A.C. to enroll in North Park University as a full-time student. While I throughly enjoyed my time as a makeup artist for M.A.C., the pay was good & who doesn’t like gratis (free makeup), I knew it was time for me to go. Why? Vanity. It was all vanity.

I can’t tell you how many times I struggled on my days off, considering myself ugly, because I wasn’t hiding behind a face full of product. I also can’t forget about the many women who sat in my chair humble, and transformed into “Sasha Fierce” after I was done beating her face. On many occasions I wanted to grab the mirror from their hands while they were admiring themselves & beg them not to believe the hype of what society deemed “beautiful”. Instead, I went away to school and barely touched my makeup for the next 3 years.

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Fast forward to today, I absolutely LOVE makeup. However, I’m changing. After unfollowing a few women online, I realized the following scripture was taking root in my heart:

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30

Maybe I’m getting older. Maybe I’m getting wiser. Who knows? Whatever IT is, it’s slowly teaching me not to place value on outward beauty. It means nothing. It fades away, and it doesn’t compare to beauty that lies within. THAT is true beauty.

It’s also teaching me to be careful of what I place before my eyes, which is why I unfollowed “her”. I had to unfollow anyone that was conflicting with what God placed in my heart. I’m not easily influenced, but I do have to monitor those things that can subconsciously plant seeds in my mind.

Slowly, but surely I’m letting go of what society has deemed normal & favorable, which includes beauty. Instead, I’m chasing after God, allowing HIM to make me beautiful, by filling me with His spirit. This is the only makeup that will last forever, and can’t be wiped away.



3 Responses
  • Martine
    October 8, 2015

    Nikki, I LOVE this post. I have recently been thinking about chopping all my hair off and keeping it short because…well, because I just don’t care about hair all that much anymore. Will I cut it? Not sure yet. This post highlights that very important question of, “who are we trying to impress?” As I get older and wiser, I KNOW that what makes us beautiful is truly within. Thanks for sharing!

  • sunny
    October 13, 2015

    I like this post and it makes sense about where we place our value..but it should be more about low self esteem vs vanity. VANITy is excessive pride in ones appearance and it stems from low self esteem. I think that our culture has shifted in how we style ourselves, do makeup ect… I dont think there is ANYTHING wrong with wearing makeup, wanting to look nice in whatever way that one deems nice BUT when it becomes excessive obession…that is where sin comes in. At the end of the day one should be happy with themselves…social media paints a picture and ppl compare themselves to these accounts due to LOW SELF ESTEEM…which produces vanity.

  • Nikki
    October 29, 2015

    I totally feel where you are coming from. I went through the same transition a few years back when I first came into the true knowledge of Christ. It occurred with people I followed on YouTube. I aspired to be a MUA, but decided not to pursue it because I saw it as vanity, although I still enjoy a good face beat here and there

    There are moments when I catch my self “indulging” in beautiful people and things, nice cars, homes, even a few new age quotes, but my heartstrings are always being tugged at, and I am reminded that it is all vanity. We have to be mindful of all the things we feed ourselves, and I am thankful that you posted this reminding me that I am not alone. :)

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