Beyonce, Beyonce, Beyonce… for the past couple of weeks Beyonce has been a trending topic. Her unforeseen album most definitely sparked the conversation, but since then Beyonce’s EVERY move has been criticized. Think I’m exaggerating? Rutgers University is now offering a class about Queen Bey (click here for full article). From feminism, to giving the world too much access into her and Jay’s love life, I’ve stood on the sideline slowly processing my thoughts about Mrs. Carter. Maybe Beyonce isn’t the problem at all.
What every girl wants…
First came love, then came marriage, then came Blue Ivy in a baby carriage. Seems like Beyonce was fortunate enough to gain what every woman wants and then some. She experienced huge success at a young age, fell in love, got married, and later gave birth to Baby Blue. Beyonce took a year off work to travel the world and simply do whatever she wanted, but was sure to inform us of how much she’s loving where she is in life, hence the name of her tour: The Mrs. Carter Show. On December 12, 2013, Beyonce released a self titled album that was an absolute top secret. There was no prior marketing, however, the album quickly soared to the #1 spot on Billboard charts. Beyonce proved she really was “strong enough to bear the children, then get back to business”. From luxurious vacations with her hubby Jay Z and baby Blue, to throwing her mother a New Orleans style 60th birthday party, to inviting Kelly & Michelle to share her 2013 Super Bowl half-time spot, it seems as if Beyonce has mastered a great balance of work and relationships. Yep, one thing we know FOR SURE: Beyonce has an amazing work ethic. The proof is in the pudding. So why the hate?
Beyonce never claimed to be your role model…
Sometime ago I unfollowed Rihanna on Instagram. I’d become disgusted with the consistent pictures of her getting high. It’s her personal decision to smoke weed, but I couldn’t help but to wonder if she cared about the millions of teenagers and young adults in her “Rihanna Navy” who can be easily influenced by her actions. Weed is a gateway drug that leads to more destructive drugs. Didn’t she understand she had a responsibility? But then the “Can’t Remember To Forget You” singer had the following to say that shut me up real quick:
“See, people… they want me to be a role model just because of the life I lead. The things I say in my songs, they expect it of me, and [being a role model] became more of my job than I wanted it to be. But no, I just want to make music. That’s it.”
Rihanna simply wants to make music. That’s it, that’s all. Maybe Beyonce simply desires the same. Unfortunately celebrities have an unhealthy influence over us regular folks, but we are the ones who continue to put them on an undeserving pedestal. At the 2014 Grammys Beyonce pranced on stage with little to nothing on and got a little frisky with husband Jay Z, while performing “Drunk in Love”. By folks reactions, one would have thought it was Mother Theresa on stage with wet hair, grinding while saying “surfboard”. Beyonce is a performer. What do folks expect from her?
The ugly truth is we live in a society where sometimes sex sells over talent. Beyonce has both, and is most definitely taking advantage of this truth. Another truth is, Beyonce never signed up to be a role model. Is it her fault that we expect higher standards from her? Not at all. However, we have a responsibility to expose ourselves and our youth to a variety of women that would be considered role models, while remembering to leave room for human error. Even the quote on quote “greats” are prone to let you down. I’ve heard stories of Michael Jordan being a jerk in person. It’s disheartening, but at the end of the day he signed up to play basketball, not to have a song entitled “Like Mike” be made about him & his “greatness”. Get it?
According to BING, in 2013 Beyonce was the most searched person of the year. Newsflash: Hate it or love it, Mrs. Carter isn’t going anywhere no time soon. While Beyonce fans have a tendency to behave more like Stans, I’ve personally come to the conclusion that I’ll acknowledge her talent and success, ensuring that I’m not low-key idolizing her. The truth is Beyonce is beautiful and talented, and isn’t looking for our approval. The truth is we have our own goals and dreams to focus on, instead of watching Beyonce’s every single move. I know I do.
What are your thoughts about the daily Beyonce conversations? Is it just me, or does it seem to be getting a bit old? Sound off below!