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The Truth About Beyonce

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Beyonce, Beyonce, Beyonce… for the past couple of weeks Beyonce has been a trending topic. Her unforeseen album most definitely sparked the conversation, but since then Beyonce’s EVERY move has been criticized. Think I’m exaggerating? Rutgers University is now offering a class about Queen Bey (click here for full article). From feminism, to giving the world too much access into her and Jay’s love life, I’ve stood on the sideline slowly processing my thoughts about Mrs. Carter. Maybe Beyonce isn’t the problem at all.

What every girl wants…

First came love, then came marriage, then came Blue Ivy in a baby carriage. Seems like Beyonce was fortunate enough to gain what every woman wants and then some. She experienced huge success at a young age, fell in love, got married, and later gave birth to Baby Blue. Beyonce took a year off work to travel the world and simply do whatever she wanted, but was sure to inform us of how much she’s loving where she is in life, hence the name of her tour: The Mrs. Carter Show. On December 12, 2013, Beyonce released a self titled album that was an absolute top secret. There was no prior marketing, however, the album quickly soared to the #1 spot on Billboard charts. Beyonce proved she really was “strong enough to bear the children, then get back to business”. From luxurious vacations with her hubby Jay Z and baby Blue, to throwing her mother a New Orleans style 60th birthday party, to inviting Kelly & Michelle to share her 2013 Super Bowl half-time spot, it seems as if Beyonce has mastered a great balance of work and relationships. Yep, one thing we know FOR SURE: Beyonce has an amazing work ethic. The proof is in the pudding. So why the hate?

Beyonce never claimed to be your role model…

Sometime ago I unfollowed Rihanna on Instagram. I’d become disgusted with the consistent pictures of her getting high. It’s her personal decision to smoke weed, but I couldn’t help but to wonder if she cared about the millions of teenagers and young adults in her “Rihanna Navy” who can be easily influenced by her actions. Weed is a gateway drug that leads to more destructive drugs. Didn’t she understand she had a responsibility? But then the “Can’t Remember To Forget You” singer had the following to say that shut me up real quick:

“See, people… they want me to be a role model just because of the life I lead. The things I say in my songs, they expect it of me, and [being a role model] became more of my job than I wanted it to be. But no, I just want to make music. That’s it.”

Rihanna simply wants to make music. That’s it, that’s all. Maybe Beyonce simply desires the same. Unfortunately celebrities have an unhealthy influence over us regular folks, but we are the ones who continue to put them on an undeserving pedestal. At the 2014 Grammys Beyonce pranced on stage with little to nothing on and got a little frisky with husband Jay Z, while performing “Drunk in Love”. By folks reactions, one would have thought it was Mother Theresa on stage with wet hair, grinding while saying “surfboard”. Beyonce is a performer. What do folks expect from her?

The ugly truth is we live in a society where sometimes sex sells over talent. Beyonce has both, and is most definitely taking advantage of this truth. Another truth is, Beyonce never signed up to be a role model. Is it her fault that we expect higher standards from her? Not at all. However, we have a responsibility to expose ourselves and our youth to a variety of women that would be considered role models, while remembering to leave room for human error. Even the quote on quote “greats” are prone to let you down. I’ve heard stories of Michael Jordan being a jerk in person. It’s disheartening, but at the end of the day he signed up to play basketball, not to have a song entitled “Like Mike” be made about him & his “greatness”. Get it?

According to BING, in 2013 Beyonce was the most searched person of the year. Newsflash: Hate it or love it, Mrs. Carter isn’t going anywhere no time soon. While Beyonce fans have a tendency to behave more like Stans, I’ve personally come to the conclusion that I’ll acknowledge her talent and success, ensuring that I’m not low-key idolizing her. The truth is Beyonce is beautiful and talented, and isn’t looking for our approval. The truth is we have our own goals and dreams to focus on, instead of watching Beyonce’s every single move. I know I do.

What are your thoughts about the daily Beyonce conversations? Is it just me, or does it seem to be getting a bit old? Sound off below!

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7 thoughts on “The Truth About Beyonce

  1. Christian Perry

    I totally agree that celebrities like Beyoncé are too often put on a pedastol that they bluntly remind us they didn’t ask for. But I like to view things this way, I’m from the school of thought that when one is given power and influence over many one should be mindful of the responsibility that comes along with it. That is not to say as a society we are absolved of our responsibility to filter what we allow ourselves and our children to be exsposed to, but rather to say as a society are we also responsible for holding each other accountable? More specifically as a black community, that is so fragile and most impacted by the Jay-z’s and Beyonce’s of the world, is not the responsibility of the more aware members in the black community to say to these media dominant figures, that when issues arise that affect us as a community, while you continue to make your music that is largely void if substance, it is ok for you to take a moment and speak or act in a way to benefit those who fill your bank accounts in a positive way. Sorry for the rant I just hate the state of “I’m responsible for me and only me” that is keeping the black community divided.

  2. Keeley @ My Life on a Plate

    Yes, I agree with every thing you said. Let her live. For all those arguing about role modeling, she is not a children’s artist. She doesn’t make music for toddlers and teens. If your kids are looking up to Beyonce, teach them about real life and explain why sex sells. And be a good role model yourself. My mother had more influence over me than any celebrity.

  3. Ericka

    Wonderful post! I think what happens is that “regular people” tend to view themselves as being “lower” than celebrities and doing this causes people to think that since these celebrities have money, fame and assumed success that they must be a part of some secret society because to them this type of success if unattainable. Beyonce is not only an entertainer but she is also a brand, she has been doing this long enough to know that what she does in the public’s eye is essentially apart of her job. What she post on these social media platforms is apart of her job. We don’t know how she acts, thinks, or carries herself in private all we know is what the media portrays and how she acts when she is doing her job, performing. If people set goals for themselves leading to their ultimate idea of success and worked on accomplishing these goals I don’t think they would be less concerned with what Beyonce or any other celebrity is doing in their personal lives.

  4. Ericka

    Typo above…”I think they would be less concerned with What Beyonce or any other celebrity is doing in their personal lives.”

  5. truthsayer

    shes a hard worker yes…but no human is above death…we have seen some of the biggest celebrities ride the wave of success and have a tragic end. the industry will use her to make cash just like with mj n wh who were “bigger than life”

  6. Monique

    Well said!! I’m guilty of holding humans to a high standard and expecting more from people when they’re just people. I agree- let her live and focus on your own dreams instead of watching Beyoncé or anyone else’s every move.

    She’s a great entertainer if that’s why you like, and looking at it from a business perspective- she does a wonderful job with her brand.

  7. BeFree Project

    Wonderful post! I am a Beyonce fan. I admire her hard work ethic, music and that she dated and then married her husband first and then had Blue. However like you stated I have dreams and goals I want to pursue, and I do not and will not follow Beyonce’s every move. It’s her life, other people who are so called Stans need to get one.

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